The most important thing to remember is this is a learned skill. Think of emotional weight in the same way you would physical weight. Without training you probably are not going to lift up a 100kg weight. Without learning the skills of emotional resilience you can’t shoulder emotional weight.
These skills are about adapting to stress levels and bouncing back from disappointments. You can’t adopt a huge amount of responsibility without having the experience of working with the level of stress that comes with it.
Part of the “New Normal” is about a better life/work balance
Part of learning emotional resilience is being able to de-stress when you need to and having a balance between “work” life and your actual life
Take time to do things you find relaxing. Whatever that is; walk the dog, listen to music, play video games, play piano , binge watch Netflix shows. If there is something that makes you feel better then make a point of doing it without any guilt or regret…
…and if you don’t have anything that makes you relax then take up a new hobby. The NHS has recently started recommended fishing – try that. Take up a new instrument. Start a new sport – something group based to meet new people, Juijitsu for example.
Make time for friends. We are social creatures and social interaction with people you like is a great way to relax. If you’ve lost contact with friends then start a hobby to make new friends.
Adopt the right amount of responsibility
Part of learning to live with stress is adopting just enough responsibility to be pushing yourself. When you are already feeling the pressure that means removing stress but if you want to develop these skills when you are not stressed then try adopting a new responsibility. Try volunteering, perhaps, or start a project with family or friends. Just enough to push yourself out of your comfort zone without being overwhelmed.